Questions to ask patients and their parents at first, in the process, and in the end of tx:

By Vera Joffe, Ph.D. (copyright, 2006)

How are we doing?

What is an area my child shows appropriate behaviors and I just do not let him know?

What is an area where my child improved his behaviors over the last few weeks, and I have not told him so?

In the last week, how many times did we as a family have “silly fun”? What did we do? How did my children respond to it?

How am I teaching my child to develop autonomy, and to make his own choices?

What are some of the choices my child is making that I may not like (it would not be my choice), but it is also not something that I should pick my battles with?

What is the most important thing I need to work with my child now? How can I facilitate him to develop that?

Who are other people who could also help my child feel better? The coach, the teacher?

How about I set up my expectations at least 10 % lower than I wanted?

What battles do I have to pick right now?

How can I present consequences to my children in a positive rather than negative tone?

What battles can I postpone?

What do I have to do to change about my parenting to facilitate communication?

How about I give myself some room for forgiveness also?